A recent client said she had a desire to explore. She did not disclose what she meant until the second session.

My program is the same for every client. Differences lie in the hypnosis and discussions leading up to the hypnosis.

In session one, I talk about communication. In session two, I talk about behaviors. Session three is about the theory of the mind — how the conscious and subconscious interact to give you the behaviors you get, and how hypnosis can bring behaviors you want.

My exploration client was enduring severe relationship issues. Her lagging marriage was pretty much over. She was waiting for her husband to realize it. If necessary she would stay in the marriage until her 8-year-old turned 18.

Her situation was not unusual. Opposites attract, as I frequently note. Opposite factors make a relationship work. They also can destroy a marriage.

For Example

A lady was talking with her friends about a wonderful new guy she had met. His work ethic was impressive. He would leave for work every morning at 6:30 and not return until 8 in the evening. As time advanced, she complained he always was working. Never had time for her.

Observing relationships, all couples seem to be opposites. One is outgoing, the other quiet. One likes people, the other is shy.

This is what was happening within my client’s marriage. Her husband was incapable of expressing feelings. He always was working.

She is outgoing, very successful at work, loves people, loves raising her daughter.

Her only area of discontent is with her non-feeling husband. He was not able to communicate what he was feeling. To her, that was a deal breaker.

He was annoyed at her because she wanted too much of his attention. Constantly crowding him, she was not giving him the space he needed to think and to live.

Making Love

She wanted sex far more frequently. When rejected, she grew angry.

For some, sex within a relationship allows him/her to feel loved.

As long as there was a continuous stream of physical affection, all was well. Affection, touching and especially cuddling after sex that allows this person to feel loved.

When this was not happening regularly, she pushed for more. ]]

Once every three days suited him. Sex was not the only way he showed his affection. He bought gifts for his wife. She did not understand that.

Had her husband said to her, “I love you, you are a wonderful mom and wife, and you really look after the house and cook nice meals,” she would have been okay.

She wanted to be appreciated and loved her way.

Neither understood what the other needed.

My client could not stop complaining about lack of intimacy.

As the hypnotherapy continued, for my client her understanding began to change.

She backed off her demands. He gave her more space.

She was surprised how fast her relationship improved. He worked less, and he expressed his feelings toward her

It still is a work in progress. They and I are hopeful.

Do not hesitate to contact me by telephone, 310.204.3321, or by email at nickpollak@hypnotherapy4you.net. See my website at www.hypnotherapy4you.net