A new client contacted me with an unusual problem bothering her since high school, blushing. She blushes all the time. No reason. As it grew more frequent, her worrying increased.
Compounding that, she was anticipating the blushing. This made her more nervous around strangers, work colleagues, even friends and family.
The blushing reflex she had trained her subconscious to give her had become a severe irritant to her life. No real event could be shown to have started the reaction.
Remember that of the brain power we have, we use only 5 percent. Ten percent is our conscious mind, 90 percent our subconscious.
Growing up, we trained our minds to give us what we thought we wanted. By age 12, our behaviors were established.
My client enjoyed a healthy childhood. She was happy with her life, her job, her fiance. Blushing was the trouble. She is an emotional sexual, which contributed to her blushing.
People fall into two categories, physical and emotional. Physicals experience life with their bodies, enjoy people and being touched. They like to be shown they are loved with the intimacy of the sex act. They are ready at anytime, anywhere. which they are ready for any time and anywhere. A physical’s priorities are family, activities involving lots of people and work, in that order.
There Are Differences
An emotional lives life mentally first and then physically. Unless the mind is willing to accept what is happening, the body will not follow. Emotionals tend to be quieter, a wallflower who does not want to be the center of attention. Emotionals do what is needed to survive at work, being the focus of attention if required. But not socially.
Work, solitary activity and family are an emotional’s priorities. They like sex every three days, and they must be turned on mentally before they are stimulated. They don’t lie in bed after sex. They get up and do something else.
My client was high on the emotional sexual percentage, causing her severe social anxiety. Blushing was caused by not understanding the kind of person she is.
Once she did, her behaviors changed. Her blushing finally stopped. Since she was not as outgoing as her friends, she feared something was wrong with her.
Opposites attract, and she would continually draw friends more congenial, which compounded her erroneous thinking.
Once she understood it was all right to be quiet at social events and that she was an emotional sexual, she relaxed.
To her surprise, her newfound confidence surfaced at work, where performed more effectively than ever.
Do not hesitate to contact me by telephone, 310.204.3321, or by email at nickpollak@hypnotherapy4you.net. See my website at www.hypnotherapy4you.net
