[img]560|left|Nicholas D. Pollak||no_popup[/img]The other day I received an email from a 71-year-old lady in Florida. I had met her daughter at a convention, and for fun, I analyzed her handwriting. Stunned at the accuracy of the analysis, she asked if I could help her mother, a shy person who always seemed to be sad. I said I could help, and I would be happy to meet with her via Skype, to hypnotize her.
The daughter asked if it was possible to hypnotize someone via Skype. I have done it many times with good results, I told her.
I contacted her mother and we set an appointment. Although she claimed to be shy and sad, her presence on Skype was such that I could see that she was not. Talking with her, she claimed to be bashful, that she sits on the periphery at parties. If anyone came over to speak, she might turn right around and leave. The only reason she was seeing me was to show her daughter she was willing to change in her life. She was not really ready to change.
This lady is an immigrant from Jamaica in the West Indies, a colony of the United Kingdom, and she has a strong sense of being British. With that comes the problem that others who are not British view them as being cool, detached, if not arrogant. This troubled her because she is not arrogant.
Normal vs. Wrong
Her issue was that nothing was wrong with her. She was what I call an emotionally sexual female. For such people, certain patterns of behavior are normal for them but considered wrong by those who are more outgoing.
In America more than other countries, people think there is something wrong with you if you are a quiet person. It is more acceptable and usually expected that you be a friendly outgoing person. An emotionally sexual person (male or female) generally has the following characteristics:
Work is their No. 1 priority. Any activities or hobbies usually are those where they compete against themselves or the environment , for example, rock climbing, golf, skydiving, race car driving. They generally do not like to be part of a team. They are not as involved with their families because usually they are on the job or working out.
They express their affection and love to their partners by working long hours to afford to buy the things that they perceive their partners would want. They show how much they love their partners by buying them expensive gifts.
Emotionally sexual individuals dress in comfortable and slightly conservative clothing, covering as much of their bodies as they can. They are protective of their bodies. Usually their hands and feet are cold because the blood is busy protecting the internal organs of the body, leaving the extremities with less blood supply. They wear little makeup and also subtle jewelry.
As for sex, they will have sex frequently with a new partner for about 3 to 4 months before their dominant behaviors set in. Then it is once every three days. For an emotional sexual, sex must first take place in the mind before anything happens in the body, and, the sex act for them is a complete physical and mental release, leaving their sexual appetite satisfied for the next two or three days.
After sex, they move on to something else. The act is over, and they want to do other things. This will frustrate their partners who want to lie in bed and cuddle in preparation of a repeat performance, which usually does not happen.
Let’s Not Get Involved
When at parties, they like to be on the outside of any group, observing what is happening. They are more comfortable in one-on-one conversations because they do not like to be the center of attention in amongst a group people.
Surprisingly, most top entertainers whom you would think would be naturally outgoing are emotionally sexual individuals. They are able to perform in front of large audiences or the camera because they have a built-in survival mechanism. This allows them to perform or to do anything that they need to do to be successful. Doing what they must do to survive is applicable to any career for an emotionally sexual individual.
When I explained the traits of an emotionally sexual person to this lovely lady in Florida, I could clearly see the light bulb going off, the realization that for all this time she had thought that there was something wrong with her. But she was just who she was and was happy to be that way.
As Dr. Laura Schlesinger says, “I can’t fix what is clearly not broken.”
If you have any questions please do not hesitate to contact me by telephone, 310.204.3321 or by email at nickpollak@hypnotherapy4you.net. See my website at www.hypnotherapy4you.net
