Patience is a virtue. Virtue is a grace. Grace is a little girl who never washed her face. How little patience we have. You have noticed how people are in a hurry.
Those much more aggressive seem to have no patience. They will push past you going through a door, cut in front of you in a line. Their look says, “You are doing wrong. I’m not.”
This happens more on the road. Recently a young man in a BMW forced me to suddenly brake when he decided at the last minute that he was in the wrong lane and needed to get into the same left hand turn lane I was in. He simply cut across two lanes and then sliced in front of me. When the light changed, he was able to make the turn but not until the light blinked from amber to red. That left me once again waiting for the light. When another driver honked at him, his angry looked accused the other driver of doing wrong.
I was riding my Harley through the canyons yesterday when, out of the blue, a young man in his mid-30s crossed the double yellow line and overtook me. With a jolt, this caused me to suddenly brake suddenly. Worse, a car going the opposite way was forced off the road. The offending driver didn’t care. He blithely continued. Once out of the canyons, I was on PCH.
Trying to enter the left turn lane to drive up an incline to the Santa Monica business center, when the same offending driver again forced me to brake hard. Again, he nearly hit me. Only because I had created a safety zone and was able to barely avoid a crash, did I avert an accident.
This was too much for me. Anger rising, I was ready to fight back verbally. Drawing up next to him, to my surprise he was with a very attractive lady in the front and a child strapped into a child seat in the rear of the car. I asked him if he had been aware that he had forced me into another lane. Sheepishly, he confessed. “Yes, I know.”
I reminded him also of what he had done in the canyons. He apologized a second time. I became concerned for his passengers and told him his impatience was fine when it was just him. But he was risking the lives of the woman and child. This not only was wrong but selfish, I said.
Shifting from One Foot
Many factors encompass impatience. We know what our triggers are. We ignore the warning signs, and we get mad anyway. A comedian was asked if it was true that he never had engaged in an argument. True. He said. How was he able to do that? It merely took two words, he said: “You’re right.”
Hypnotherapy, an amazing tool, will helps this kind of behavior.
In these situations I would use an anchor to help a client to resolve their impatience and anger. An anchor reminds the subconscious of the behavior we want rather that the behavior we get.
A Time for Retraining
We know the feeling that tells us we are growing impatient or angry. You have trained yourself to recognize it. When the feeling appears, you act. What if you choose to act differently? When you recognize the feeling, press your thumb to your second finger on your left hand while saying “I am doing this to remind my subconscious that anger and impatience are not the behavior I want.” You choose your left hand because it is operated by your right brain, which is emotion- and feeling-based.
As you retrain your subconscious, the anger subsides, replaced by a more favorable reaction. As the self-programming takes hold, you soon are less angry and more patient. With newfound patience, you resolve issues with positive rather than negative behavior.
This may only require a deep breath, listening to what the other person has to say. Listen calmly. See what is happening. Respond only in this state of mind.
Logic and reasoning make a big difference. Remember hypnosis can help you control through relaxation techniques. It provides a better understanding of how people communicate as well as a good understanding of the behavior of others.
Do not hesitate to contact me by telephone, 310.204.3321, or by email at nickpollak@hypnotherapy4you.net. See my website at www.hypnotherapy4you.net
