You never know what to expect in my line of work. A potential client in Long Island called to ask if I could help him with an issue that no hypnotherapist in New York was willing to address. He wanted to feel comfortable when he wore women’s clothing. If that wasn’t enough, he wanted me to stay on the phone while he went into his mother’s room to show her what he really was like.
At the age of 46, he has this way since he was only 15 years old. No one in his family knew. Now he wanted to come out of the closet. He was not gay. He only liked to wear women’s clothing.
We conducted his session via Face time, which allows me to see him and his reactions, in particular when hypnotizing him. I had reservations. But I reminded myself it was not my place to pass judgment on a client’s behavior.
I do not decide a person’s changes. Give a client what he wants. If someone sees me to lose weight, I am not going to have him quit smoking.
Long Distance
The first session from Long Island went well. It was delayed while he changed into women’s clothing. He asked me to address him by the female name he gave me. We worked on creating a comfort level, a veil of calm when he wore women’s clothing. I sought to ensure that he was calm, relaxed, focused for his upcoming meeting with his mother. This concerned him because she is 70 years old. Who knew what her reaction would be?
Afterward, he felt really good. He decided to confront his mother without me. If there was a problem, he would call. The meeting must have gone well because he did not call.
The next day he reported his mother was not surprised. Rather, she was accepting of his quirk. My client was thrilled.
However, he overstepped his boundaries with me. He wanted me to conduct “erotic hypnosis.” I declined.
He demanded to know why.
He offered – I am not joking – $500,000. Again I declined. I am not in the business of eroticism.
He works for a large chain department store. Clearly he could not afford what he was trying to promise.
At that point, I was not willing to assist him further. He insisted he would go elsewhere, and he did.
Do not hesitate to contact me by telephone, 310.204.3321, or by email at nickpollak@hypnotherapy4you.net. See my website at www.hypnotherapy4you.net.
