I received a call recently from a woman my wife had met at a party. Her husband was suffering severe depression, allergies, rheumatism, a complete down-and-out attitude.
When they had met, he was the opposite, a dynamic go-getter with an extremely positive attitude.
Physical ailments were depressing him to the point that he had considered suicide several times.
He also fretted that if he did not improve soon, his wife would divorce him and he would be on the street.
I have found that clients with these symptoms consistently fear their spouses will abandon them over their difficulty in dealing with depression.
Declining to take drugs, saying they are just a cover, the husband said that he would rather know what he was feeling so he could experience improving – without what he regarded as a false mask.
The husband told me that his mother was a y physically abusive Jehovah’s Witness. His parents had raised him strictly although his father was a little easier on him.
Here Is Where, Why They Started
He is clear that his childhood caused his problems. Largely true, but when I offered him a positive new image to work toward, he complained he has trouble visualizing because when you are as down as he was, giving up was easier.
Although my title is clinical hypnotherapist, one would believe that I would spend my days hypnotizing people. I actually spend most of my time de-hypnotizing people from beliefs that they have developed throughout their lives. Once a client said his parents told him he was stupid and would fail in his life. Repeated often, he believed them.
After years of resisting negative programming, he finally took sick, and that triggered his slide.
This was an unusually difficult client because the negative behaviors had been prevalent for so long. He was seeing a healer in New York who felt that hypnosis would help. But the healer claimed he could not hypnotize since his client was here in L.A. If the healer had wanted, he could have used Skype. I do several times a month, and it is effective.
The client did not respond well initially to hypnosis. He was hypnotized but, unaccustomed to it, he did not go deep. This was not unusual.
No. 3 Is the Magic Moment
Some clients do and some don’t at the start, but after two sessions they become comfortable with the process. They almost always hypnotize deeply during their third session.
Without a doubt, the third session is the most effective. Nervous clients allow themselves to settle in.
I had suggested to the present client he should start to act as if he were a positive person. This is important. When you want to create change, you want to see yourself as if the changes already have occurred. You begin to reprogram your subconscious, because it begins to understand the old behaviors are not the ones you want, the new ones are. In increments, the changes come. Before long, you no longer act as if the changes are occurring. They already have.
Same with my client. We thought we were getting nowhere until his fourth session. Session Three was so powerful, and the client went very deep. Internally, something had unlocked, flushing away his negatives.
Shortly, his illnesses, allergies, rheumatism and depression were gone. He smiles. He is energetic, and has returned to what he loves most, composing music.
Do not hesitate to contact me by telephone, 310.204.3321, or by email at nickpollak@hypnotherapy4you.net. See my website at www.hypnotherapy4you.net
