[img]560|left|Nicholas D. Pollak|remove link|no_popup[/img]Your body always will attempt to resist changes you want to make. It is so highly tuned that it knows to the gram what you are happiest doing every day. It might be smoking, drugs, food, gambling, men, women. Whatever the addiction, it is a learned behavior. You were not born with it. You learned it so well that the subconscious will not let you change it without a fierce battle.
As with all things, it requires just a little internal retraining. Not always easy, but when you do, the import becomes apparent. The idea is simple: From birth, everything you have seen, heard, tasted, touched, experienced, has been stored within your subconscious.
Your subconscious, though, does not determine good, bad, right wrong, false, real. It only holds the information. Our conscious mind determines right, wrong and the rest.
For change to occur, you must know what you want. What are you willing to do to attain it? Learn what you must do to reach your objective. Here you must believe you are what you want to be. A belief forms that you can be better, healthier, happier by letting go of what you know you must.
The Formative Years
Whether physically or mentally abused, abandoned, neglected, undernourished, raised in poverty or riches, between birth and the age of 12 years shaped who you became, how you lived.
When we were babies, our mothers catered to every need because we were helpless. When your father was present, you observed his behavior because your mother was giving him her attention and ignoring you. That meant that when you acted the way your father or dominant male figures did, your mother would pay less attention to her partner and love you more.
What if the behavior were that of an abusive, violent alcoholic? Your mother lived with these behaviors. You witnessed them. Therefore you believed this was how people were supposed to treat each other. In your desire to be loved, you emulated the behavior to gain your parents’ attention.
There you have it. Uncomplicated. I am not a psychiatrist or a psychologist but a hypnotherapist. Hypnotherapy, the power of your subconscious channeled to achieving goals you set, can help with so many things. Habit and impulse control.
We Have the Power
The desire to change our habits from unproductive and destructive to productive and constructive lies within each of us. It is a matter of creating a strong image of your new behaviors and living them. No secrets. here. Be what you want. The hard part is the continuous pull of the well implanted unwanted behaviors seeking to draw you back into the old, easy behaviors. It is easy to give in.
Aren’t the new, less tested behaviors developing positive change for you? Are you closer to where you want to be? Is it worth sacrificing the hard work you have done to be the new you? For a few minutes of what used to be pleasure, just a physical feeling, aren’t our minds stronger than our bodies.
Remember when you woke up with a fever, knowing you had an appointment too important to miss? In spite of feeling poorly, you fulfilled your task. How? By devising a certain mindset allowing you to accomplish it.
With the mindset, you can overcome the physical compulsion to that, which you do not want to do. Fight for what you want. Use hypnosis to form the imagery to be successful.
Finally, reject thoughts that don’t contribute to your success. Act only on thoughts creating your success.
Since some habits are easier to break, try this small exercise to change a habit. Wear your watch on the other wrist. See how often you look at the old wrist before you check the new wrist. When you keep looking at the new wrist, without thinking about it, you have proven your ability to create a change for yourself. Now work on the bigger stuff. Good luck.
Each day, the desire to do harmful things eases. The more it eases, the better you feel.
If you have any questions please do not hesitate to contact me by telephone, 310.204.3321, or by email at nickpollak@hypnotherapy4you.net. See my website at www.hypnotherapy4you.net
